Wednesday, December 26, 2018

These Are The Five Lessons That Changed My Life This Year


What a year I’ve had.
I accomplished a lot in my life before 2018. I’m 45 years old. I’ve earned a Ph.D. Received accolades on Wall Street. Been in the C-suite of public and private biotech companies. I’ve gotten married and had two amazing children.
But this year was special.
This year, I learned how to listen to my own voice. To make choices that felt right for me, and not focus so much on what looks good to other people.
I started writing on Medium 8 months ago today. I always loved writing, loved books, loved words. I had journals dating back to when I was in elementary school, full of the words from my head. But I held myself back from writing for other people until April 2018. I thought it was a silly thing for someone like me to do.
I thought being the operative words.
If I counted correctly, this is my 98th story on Medium this year. I have gained 3K followers, and been published in a variety of other places. I have a nice sized email list filled with lovely and engaged readers.
That’s all well and good. But the most important thing that I did this year was to find my own passion. Something that energizes and engages me. Something outside of work and family and all the little details that make up our lives.
Something that makes me want to keep going, to try again, to express, to connect.
And none of it would have been possible if I didn’t learn these five valuable lessons this year.

1. Perfect does not exist

One of the main reasons I didn’t start writing sooner is that I didn’t think my writing was good. I thought it needed to be perfect to start at all. That if it wasn’t perfect than it was shameful and people would judge me and my work.
Well, guess what, my writing isn’t perfect. It wasn’t when I started, and it’s not now. Nowhere close. But the only person judging me with a microscopic lens was me.
Perfect is an arbitrary construct that we all makeup in our minds. It’s a negative voice in our heads. But if we can push it aside, accept that it is not real, then we can reach marvelous places. I have found more fulfillment in my imperfect writing than I ever thought I could. And, I have affected others in a positive way, too, which is beyond anything I could have hoped for.

2. There is no wagon to fall off or get back on

This is a perfect idea again. The idea that your journey needs to be a straight line. That you have to write every single day, or not at all.
That is not the case.
I have written at least one article every week since April. Except for a week or two when I didn’t, or couldn’t. And guess what? It was fine. I took a break and got back to it. I trusted myself enough to know that taking a break didn’t mean I would abandon the project altogether. And during the breaks, I recharged and craved writing again. I was reminded that I was on the right path. Breaks are an important part of life. Because life isn’t always about productivity.
Streaks serve their purpose for many reasons. But if you think life is all or nothing, you will eventually end up with nothing.

3. Less thinking, more trying and stumbling and trying again

I spend a lot of time in my own head. Thinking, anticipating, projecting, expecting.
In 2018, I tried something different. I threw a few things against the wall, and I saw what stuck.
I wrote about different topics, in different ways. Some articles resonated with people, others resulted in tumbleweeds. But I didn’t let the tumbleweeds keep me from writing the next article. I accepted that I could learn from the things that didn’t go as well. And that no one success or failure meant that was a success or failure. All you can do is try, and learn.

4. We don’t have to take self-doubt so seriously

We all have self-doubt. We all tell ourselves that we can’t do things. We get that feeling of panic and anxiety at the idea of failure. It feels the same as being chased by a tiger. That self-doubt tells us we are going to fail, and it tells us failure is the same thing as death.
But this year I learned to take my self-doubt along for the ride. To accept and acknowledge that it’s there. It’s going to exist, and it’s going to have opinions. But it doesn’t mean we shouldn’t do the thing.
And self-doubt is wrong about failure, too. Failure doesn’t mean anything about our self-worth. See lesson #3.

5. Nobody gives a crap (in the best possible way)

When I first started writing, I was afraid to tell anyone in my life. I assumed people would think it was silly or ridiculous or dumb. Then slowly, I started mentioning it to people. A few at a time. And guess what? No one cared. I would either get a “that’s cool” or a “huh, really?” A few people read some of my work and gave me positive feedback. But most didn’t give a crap.
Everyone has their own lives, their own internal drama going on. We expect judgement way more than actually exists. Most people spend most of their time thinking about themselves.
And even if there are people who have negative thoughts about my work, it’s none of my business. I will never know what goes on in other people’s minds. And I can’t control their thoughts.

So in the midst of all my imperfections, failures, stumbles, time off the wagon, self-doubt, and fears about other people’s thoughts, this has been one of the best years of my life. Because I listened to my own heart and my own mind. Really listened. And accepted those thoughts. Allowed them. Followed them.
I can never go back.
I hope you can learn all these lessons and apply them to your life. And in 2019, have your most marvelous, energized, connected year yet.

Friday, May 25, 2018

Where Can I Find Roommates

Where can I find roommates? This is a question that people have been pondering for a long time. For people who are not married, having roommates is a financially responsible thing to do. But finding people to live with is not an easy task. There are always people who are looking for a room to rent or have a room available, but inviting random people into your living space is very intrusive. A screening process is crucial.


Traditionally, people would find roommates by putting an ad in the paper or posting flyers around town. This is one way to find people who are looking for roommates, but it doesn't sound so safe. There is no way to find out anything about this person before they contact you. Then, if you let them over to your house or go to there's, you might be putting yourself in a bad situation. A three line ad is not going to give you the information that you need to evaluate someone.

Where Can I Find Roommates Efficiently? Where can I find roommates and be able to hand select them? There is only one way that you can find roommates and be able to view their profile, see their picture and get a good grasp on what type of a person they are. This outlet is only found online. Internet roommate services make people set up profiles so that you can find the right roommate in the area you want for the rent you are able to pay.

The beauty of online roommate finders is that you can browse through hundreds of different profiles and see what is out there for you. They have the same ability towards you, meaning that someone might be searching for a person with your characteristics to make the perfect match. If you want to get to know someone before meeting them, email and chat features keep everything at a distance while you feel someone out. Using online roommate finders is the best way to find someone to live with.

Monday, June 10, 2013

5 Tips To Stay Calm With Your Roommate

5 Tips to Getting Along With Your Roommate

Here are few tips to go along with your roommates , Staying with roommates and if your not having good relationship with him/her will  lead you to great problem, There is always a solution for all the things , Below are some tips which will help you to get along with your roommates

Friday, May 24, 2013

Top 10 Use of Ebook For Students and Roommates

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HOW TO LIVE WITH A FEMALE ROOMMATE

Steps:

1. Communicate openly with your roommate. Agree to talk about issues before they get out of control.

2. Accept that sometimes people will be in a bad mood. If she says she doesn't want to go do something with you, don't take it personally.

3. Decide early how the rent and utilities will be split, and what to do if one person can't make the month's payments.

4. Establish rules about food, company, chores, noise, tobacco and alcohol use, and parking. Make sure each person's expectations and responsibilities are clear.

5. Respect your roommate's right to privacy and her possessions. Always ask before you borrow anything, no matter how small.

6. Knock before entering her room.

7. Don't tie up the only phone line ' consider getting separate lines for each of you.

8. Take messages from callers. Get the name and phone number and write it down where your roommate will see it.

9. Begin your statements with "I," as in "I get really annoyed when you leave your dishes in the sink" instead of "You're such a pig!" Focus on her behavior, not her personally.

10. Recognize that some people are neater, louder, more private, or more possessive than others. Don't expect your roommate to mirror your own personality.

11. Treat her the way you expect to be treated.

12. Don't lie. If you screw up, admit it immediately.

Tips:

Show your appreciation for your roommate's courtesy once in a while.

Don't walk around the house in your underwear.


Article Source: www.homehighlight.org

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Wednesday, October 10, 2012

HOW TO LIVE WITH A FEMALE ROOMMATE

Steps:

1. Communicate openly with your roommate. Agree to talk about issues before they get out of control.

2. Accept that sometimes people will be in a bad mood. If she says she doesn't want to go do something with you, don't take it personally.

3. Decide early how the rent and utilities will be split, and what to do if one person can't make the month's payments.

4. Establish rules about food, company, chores, noise, tobacco and alcohol use, and parking. Make sure each person's expectations and responsibilities are clear.

5. Respect your roommate's right to privacy and her possessions. Always ask before you borrow anything, no matter how small.

6. Knock before entering her room.

7. Don't tie up the only phone line ' consider getting separate lines for each of you.

8. Take messages from callers. Get the name and phone number and write it down where your roommate will see it.

9. Begin your statements with "I," as in "I get really annoyed when you leave your dishes in the sink" instead of "You're such a pig!" Focus on her behavior, not her personally.

10. Recognize that some people are neater, louder, more private, or more possessive than others. Don't expect your roommate to mirror your own personality.

11. Treat her the way you expect to be treated.

12. Don't lie. If you screw up, admit it immediately.

Tips:

Show your appreciation for your roommate's courtesy once in a while.

Don't walk around the house in your underwear.


Article Source: www.homehighlight.org

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Monday, September 10, 2012

Roommate Finances - How To Budget Your Money Better

Are you having trouble budgeting your money when living with roommates? You're not the only one. Most roommates at one time or another find it hard to juggle their money and live within a budget. The key is to create a budget that includes all of your roommate expenses so that you don't have any unexpected surprises.
Creating a budget with all of your costs lets you find out whether you can meet your bill commitments. When you have an overview of your expenses, it's easier to budget for the future and you know how much money you need each month or week. This is important whether you are budgeting for yourself or are making a household budget. It also helps you separate your roommate expenses from other living costs.
So, what expenses should you include in your budget when living with roommates. Here are 9 typical costs you will encounter when moving in with roommates.
1. Rent
The rent will be your largest expense each week or month. Your rental agreement will set out how it needs to be paid and if you need to pay additional expenses like electricity and water to the landlord. Roommates usually split the rent evenly but this may depend on your household.
2. Kitty
Many households have a separate kitty for common household expenses. The kitty includes household items like cleaning and laundry products, toilet paper, petty cash and sometimes food. Petty cash is money put aside for emergencies, breakages and small common household items like light globes.
3. Electricity
Depending on your rental agreement, you may be directly responsible for paying the electricity bill. If this is the case, you will receive the bill monthly or quarterly depending where you live and/or your electricity provider. Electricity bills are usually split evenly between roommates.
4. Phone
The phone bill is often one of most disputed household bills. You can resolve disputes by setting up a system where roommates receive their own pin number which they need to enter before making a call. This can be arranged by contacting your local phone company. An alternative solution is for roommates to use cell phones or phone cards. Phone bills are usually sent monthly.
5. Internet
If you decide to share Internet access, you will need to calculate the cost into your budget. Check with your provider if each roommate can be billed separately. You will receive your bill monthly.
6. Water Bill
The amount of your water bill is usually determined by your rental agreement with the landlord. Sometimes water is included in your rent while other times the bill will be sent directly to you. It's important to check your rental contract regarding how your water bill is calculated and is to be paid. This is often determined by the type of premises you are living in.
7. Cable TV
As it's difficult to monitor how much Cable TV each roommate watches, this bill is split evenly between all household members. You should receive this bill monthly.
8. Entertainment Expenses
It's a good idea to calculate some money into your budget for entertainment. This way there will be enough money available when you have invited guests and you won't need to worry about spending more than your budget. You can put any unspent money into a special entertainment kitty.
9. Miscellaneous Expenses
These expenses are extra costs that are unique to your household. For example, you may need to buy supplies to maintain a garden or your household may decide to hire a cleaner.
When calculating your expenses or planning a budget, it's important to make sure all of your costs are measured using the same timeframe. For example, if you are calculating a monthly budget, you will need to make sure that each of your expenses has been converted to the monthly amount. By creating a budget and having a clearer understanding of your roommate living costs, you'll have greater control over your money and won't need to worry about unexpected costs. Before you know it, your roommate budget troubles will be over.
Good Luck and Enjoy Roommate Living!

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